You know the feeling: things happen and get on top of you. And you get ratty with yourself, beating yourself up and generally getting furious and impatient. It happens to all of us from time to time. But if your patience level with yourself is getting lower and lower, it pays to take a step back and work out how to be more patient with yourself.
Check out these three tips that will help you to increase your patience levels. Start with the one that resonates most with you – partly because that’s probably the best one for you right now, partly because it’s the one you’re most likely to follow!
1. Slow down
Often we make the mistakes that cause us to lose our patience because we’re in a rush.
Maybe it’s because of deadlines, maybe it’s because you’re trying to do too many things at once (a common problem in our hectic modern world).
Whatever the reason, it’s almost certainly worth slowing down a little.
Carpenters are told to measure twice, cut once.
If you can find a way to apply that philosophy to your life, you’ll find yourself performing better which should help you to become more patient with yourself.
2. Quell those voices in your head
We all have voices in our head. Some of them are quiet whispers, others are shouting at us at full volume.
If any of those are constantly nagging you or heckling you or generally chipping away at your confidence levels, those are the ones to work on.
If you’re able to literally turn off those voices, do so. You’re a rare person if you can do that!
Otherwise you can adjust the volume – they’re being created by you, so you do actually have control over them even if you don’t think that’s the case.
You can also tell those voices – politely or impolitely – to shut up. Again, that can work nicely although (like a troublesome teenager) it may take a few attempts before they take the hint.
You can also change the tone that’s being used and the words that are being used. Quite a few people I’ve met allow themselves to have voices in their head that say things they wouldn’t tolerate in real life. Take a stand if that’s the case for you.
3. Learn to relax
Relaxation is something we were good at as children but we forget how to do it as we get older.
Again, life gets in the way.
There’s just so much to do that we don’t set aside quality, uninterrupted, time to relax. And it probably is a matter of putting that time in your diary until relaxing turns into a habit.
As you gradually get more relaxed, it will spill over into the times that you are currently working full steam ahead and help you get through those as well.
Don’t expect immediate results – it’s taken quite a few years of training yourself not to relax to get to this stage – but it will gradually make a difference in your life.
Check out this page if you’d like more help to be more patient with yourself.
And if your patience with other people isn’t as high as it should be, get help to stop interrupting people and finishing their sentences for them!